Listen, this post is gonna start off kinda “wax philosophical/hug a bear” in nature, so please be warned. Also, I don’t think in complete sentences, so I don’t plan to write in them. Deal.
I recently had a life-shaking volunteer experience. Changing seems too strong, so I’ll just say it jarred me ever so slightly. It made me reflect. I spent an evening with a formerly incarcerated woman – helping her figure out her yahoo e-mail and facebook profile. It was kinda awesome. She was so excited to get her profile updated. The best part – when we realized the same women inspired us (you know that section on your profile where you’re asked “Who inspires you?”) I also really loved telling her she could listen to Obama on youtube! Well, Obama and Mary J Blige. I guess the experience just made me realize – just about anything is possible. To speak with this reformed woman and learn about her life, her struggles (without learning the why’s and how’s of her incarceration) made me more aware of all the complaining we all do. I am the QUEEN of complaining. Honestly, I can find something wrong with just about anything. But in the end, I realize I am actually really quite grateful for all that I have.
That moment when my boss is being a troll, work is overwhelming, Excel isn’t brightening my spirits –> remember you’re lucky to be employed (in a job that you enjoy, doing work that excites you and hopefully helps others).
When I think….ugh, I hate dieting, and I really suck at it. I WANT TO BE SKINNY –> recognizing that I am so lucky that I have enough food to say, I don’t need to eat this now, I can eat it later. And the fact that abundant food is actually a problem.
That bit of loneliness (and maibs a twinge of jealousy?) arising from within when you realize so many others’ lives are moving forward more efficiently than your own. –> remembering how far you’ve come since last year, last month, last week. And reminding yourself that your happiness really shouldn’t be direct function of others’. Do good. Take care of yourself. Let yourself be happy.
When I sit in the waiting office at my doctor’s (and then in the actual exam room) for more than an hour and a half –> 1) at least you get a daytime nap 2) how lucky are you to be insured and have the option to wait (forevvvzzz) to be seen by a great internist?
When the heat seems borderline unbearable and my greatest concern is excessive tanning and sweating (or as I like to say, glowing) –> Oh, that’s right, I have a f(x)ing air conditioner, access to cold ice, (it’s my thing, get over it), and clothes to protect my skin.
I realize my comments are much less profound and graceful than those of the Dalai Lama (http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3776/20-Instructions-for-Life-by-The-Dalai-Lama.html), but really it’s the same message, people.
Be grateful. Do good. Do your best, but realize perfection is overrated. Let yourself be happy. Recognize that a healthier you is a happier you. Most importantly, recognize health is more than your flu shot or Advil (though get your dang vaccine!) – It’s about your well-being. Take a mind break and a me-moment (day/hour/week) every now and again. And by all means, vent. VENT freely and scream. Cry the ugly cry. But then just remember ‘all of the above,’ – change what you can, accept what you can’t, and laugh loudly.
Anyhoo, back to me. Wtf is up with people on the train?! Seriously, if there are seats available, you are NOT welcome to sit next to me. Also, a 2 year old (in a stroller) should not be chugging Dr Pepper from a 20oz. Oye. And lastly, what’s the point of your headphones if I can hear you blasting that Rihanna? You may recall my previous rant on why wear a belt if your draaaws (hehe, roos) are gonna show? Same. Concept.
And on the note of public transit – let me share some basic etiquette (many of these rules have been touched upon in the past. Those fools are clearly not reading my blog).
– If you are going to text and walk, please be sure you’re proficient in multi-tasking. I don’t have time to turtle crawl behind you b/c you’re laughing at an LOL Cats post on facebook.
– If your bus is not here yet, DO not stand in front of the door of the wrong bus. That really annoys people.
– If you’re going to smoke, do it in a cave. My pink lungs do not welcome you at the bus stop.
– If you’re going to scream on the train during the really loud parts of the commute – SHUT UP.
Work has been going well lately – as I dabble into the world of international tobacco control, I am quickly learning that CRAP, a lot of people smoke. I guess I always knew, but to see some of these numbers is just mind-blowingly painful. Excited about the changes in my job description and excited that I still have a job.
I recently travelled to Florida for a conference (Academy-dime, holla) – social marketing! OMG. Nerd moment – I’ve only been studying this field since 2006. I met some really influential minds who understand that “doing good” is a business in some sorts. It requires strategy, efficiency, and long-term thinking. Kinda awesome. Also, awesome? Getting to hang out with my sisters for the weekend on the beach
Next up….DC for a meeting at the Dept of Health and Human Services. Um, kinda cool. Why? Well, b/c our Assistant Sec of Health is the cutest guy in Obama’s administration, that’s why! I mean, it’s such an honor…nope, I stand with my original comment.
THEN – 6 years after we met (well, some of us at least), we’re having a Payless reunion in the big Apple!
In closing, yaaay for the Affordable Care Act being upheld. I appreciate all the of the discord and differing opinions; however, today I am happy to say proud to be an (Asian-Indian) American, and happy our kids (and adults) will be protected regardless of their situations. Now, POTUS, let’s figure out how to treat our immigrants more humanely…obvi, after you celebrate for a moment.
For realz, in closing, sending warm, dry, sunny thoughts to my friends and family in Florida. Debby, you is a skank!